Men and pregnancy...I need unbiased and neutral opinions from mature women. ?

Men react differently to the thought of being a parent than women. They don't have the same immediate connection that women feel by carrying the baby. Many men, however, jump on board right away when they find out they are going to be daddies. This seems like a complex issue and I think that the best thing to try first is to make it seem like he is necessary throughout the pregnancy. He may just be staying away because he doesn't know what he should be doing. Keep working with him because he could just be adjusting to the idea. It would be nice if he would suddenly wake up and get active with the preparations for his future child. I would really try to keep the relationship with him and try to word things so that he understands that he is as important in the process as you (duh for women, but some men grew up thinking that babies are just for women). At least see how he reacts when it comes time to have the baby. If he is still not on board, then maybe it would be better if you went your separate ways. Dad's are important for kids though, and it is important to never let the child feel your anger or frustration toward him as it can have adverse affects on them. Oh, and the doctor probably wants to meet with him to get an accurate medical history and to develop a relationship for the delivery room. I'm not a guy so your best answer would probably come from one of them because they can take a step back and look at the situation. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!